Maybe we can clone her? I have her hairbrush. . .

Desperately seeking 51-year-old bisexual Leo. Should be into media fandom, gardening, cycling, bread-baking, and me. Must be passionate about progressive politics, read while you walk, and sing as you approach the house. Please love blue flowers, and be able to overcome cynicism to take political action. Afraid of being without something to read? Addicted to sudoku? Exhibit delightful word choice? Willing to relocate to the realm of the living? Let's spend another 15 years together!

Over the years, Sandy frequently quoted a study that found that people who'd been happily married were more likely to remarry after their partners died. On the other hand, more than once she said that I could never leave her because then she'd have to date - and that would just be cruel.

Dec 25, 1995, with Pounce at John & Nicole's

I miss Sandy terribly. I miss everything about her that made her who she was, even the parts of herself that she hated or that I found frustrating. I also miss having an ever-present companion and confidante, someone to share the burdens of the house and cat care and the many random decisions and problems of life -- so I can understand the appeal widows find in remarrying.

I know it's early; it's only been three months. But when I recognize the desire to be in a relationship, it's Sandy I want. Only Sandy. Always Sandy. It's possible that I'll feel as strong a connection with someone else someday, but right now, my image of that connection always has Sandy's face, voice, smile, and essence.